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  • #18554
    theanimechick
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    So as many of you know, I posted about my new kitty today. I was worried about leaving him at home since he was so upset when we tried keeping him out of the bedroom last night. After coming home, he seems to have lost his lovin’. 🙁 He’s not letting me hold him like I did before I left him for work nor Dan. I think my kitty hates me!

    #251988
    Buttercup
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    Hi tac,he’s still getting used to you and his surroundings. He will not stop or start loving you overnight.Just be consistent with him,he will get his confidence and you will see if he’s a smoochy kitty or not.

    #251989
    SoxsMom
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    Basil is not a cuddler. He comes to bed with me every night but on his terms. He sleeps at my feet. He wants a belly pat, cheek rub, and then he moves and snuggles my foot. At that point if he is touched he will leave. During the day if I am in the living room on the couch he sits on the back with his paw on me but if I touch him he leaves. Teaser is not the worlds biggest snuggler either. Deuter snuggles but he is always in play mode. He snuggles and then wiggles. The best part with Deuter and Basil they always have their motor running. I have never heard a cat purr like Basil–we heard him before we ever saw him. You just have to work with the kitten. He is after all feline and will want things his way and on his terms. The joy of cats!

    #251990
    theanimechick
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    It’s just weird how he went from so cuddly yesterday to stand offish… 🙁 I guess I’ll have to get in the fickle feline swing of things.

    #251991
    Nirmal
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    somtims they do that…….i had one kitten who went frm loving me to be scared to hell of me for awhile till i seperated her from the others and she was ok. so somtimes u have to adjust things and make him more welcome, esepcially when he’s new and getting used to things. just keep trying to be extra good to him!

    #251992
    anncetera2
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    It may actually be a good sign that he’s getting more comfortable in his surroundings – he may not need your reassurance so much. Don’t worry, kittens have short attention spans and are easily distracted. If he’s treated with consistent kindness and gentleness, chances are good he’ll respond with affection.

    Not all cats like to sit in laps or be held. This doesn’t mean that they don’t show affection! Dom, one of my cats, can’t stand to be picked up, sit in one’s lap, etc. But she meows for me to pet her, and she’ll race to use the scratching post every time I walk past it because she knows I’ll pet her when she uses it. She also occasionally loudly announces her ‘kill’ when she brings me a little furry stuffed toy and drops it at my feet. (Another case when she knows I’ll pet her for bringing it.)

    #251993
    SammyandOliversmama
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    anncetera, that is so cute. Oliver is sorta like that. Does not want to be held or be a lap kitty, BUT gets between Bob and me on the sofa and stays for 2-3 mins. looking for face rubs, gives kitty kisses with his eyes and then, “okay, ’nuff of that, see ya”. and pouces off to do and see other adventures. He is just a year old.

    #251994

    Aww, your kitten is punishing you for leaving him alone! Don’t worry, he’ll come around again.

    #251995
    MadcatwomanintheUK
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    Try some tuna – it’s amazing how quickly they love you again when tuna’s involved!!

    #251996
    Emma
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    With Ruggles, tuna can seduce him out of any bad mood.

    As for Rotley, I could wash my face in tuna and he would still remain in a snit!

    #251997
    theanimechick
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    Well now it seems like he just doesn’t want to be picked up. When I lay down he comes up and rubs his face on my face and lays on me and cuddles like crazy. So confusing! I just hope he adjusts soon. Dan and I are making him a present; a kitty condo! I hope he loves it.

    #251998
    AZDEBRA 5/27 & crew
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    Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t immediately play with the kitty condo, kits are like little kids….some like the boxes more than the presents. Let him be and don’t push anything on him, he will come to things such as cuddling on his own terms. I have five furbabies and 3 out of the 5 are cuddlers, but again on their own terms…I can pick up and hold 2 of them…most of them sleep next to me or on the bed with me, again each in their own space and comfort zones. For one thing, they sure aren’t like dogs whom for the most part will dote on their humans….nope cats have slaves is so true, lol. Little old people with furry coats on most days 🙂 >^..^<

    #251999
    3kits staff
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    I have this hanging on my wall!

    Thou shall have dominion over all the beasts…

    except of course cats

    Felines 10:13

    #252000
    anncetera2
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    Theanimechick, if you do need to pick him up, make sure you get all 4 of his feet quickly placed such that they’re not dangling. Kitties usually feel much more secure when they’ve got ‘four on the floor,’ or are positioned in such a way as to be able to spring away easily.

    If he doesn’t want to be picked up, I’d recommend you don’t pick him up any more than you need to.

    #252001
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    I was playing with Leela a day after adopting her, and accidentally scared her. It was just the feet-in-slippers-shuffle, but boy was she scared. She did the wide-eyed, sideways poofed up thing, ears so flat they dissappeared, but what scared me was that she looked at me like she didn’t even know me. I suddenly realized that she didn’t! After going through the getting to know each other stage, she still jumps sideways at me (it’s fiddler crab season!), but it’s in play.

    #252002
    theanimechick
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    I’m starting to think it’s because he’s in play mode all the time now. The first day he didn’t have many toys but now he has a ton and he’s constantly playing. I guess whenever I try to pick him up he’s to riled up to want to be held. I did notice though that whenever I’m lying down (especially on the floor) he loves to cuddle and nuzzle. Maybe it’s the heights…:-/

    #832643
    Charlie
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    Uhuh! I get that this is a super old post, but I was looking through the posts for behaviour. This one hits so close to home right now.

    My lap cat has vanished, he’s absconded and been replaced with a play-machine. He will only pause to wail at me to play, give a headbutt or two and only wants to snuggle when we happen to be lying down (and only on our bed for some reason!). He’s also started doing the “fiddler crab” if his protests for me to start playing (which he yodels from through the house) are ignored. I miss my cuddle cat…lol

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