Welcome to TDK Nicole! This is the fluffiest place on the internet, so no one here is going to make rude comments about anything, much less how you parent your babies.
This topic of spanking is a highly controversial subject, and here at TDK we try to avoid ‘gray’ areas where people get upset and say hurtful things to each other. I am going to post a link that was posted here on TDK a few years back when a poster came here looking for advice. I hope it’s helpful to you because it’s still as relevant today as it was then.
Also, I don’t understand why your cat isn’t allowed under the bed. If this is true, then I would get some boards or something similar to block off the underneath of the bed. This then becomes your responsibility and she can’t access it and she stays out of trouble. As for her playing with her poop, I just can’t say as I don’t have enough information. Cats can have lots of toys, but they actually need to be played with. If you have interactive toys such as feather wands, laser toys, kickers, scratching posts, places where she can watch out a window when you aren’t there, it seems that she wouldn’t want to play with her poop. Unless her litter box is too full, doesn’t have enough litter in it, she doesn’t like the litter, or try one with a hood so she doesn’t flick it out– I just don’t have any explanation.
http://dailykitten.com/chat/topic/why-cant-i-spank-my-cat/