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  • #800913
    Mae
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    Hello all! My name is Mae, and I’ve been a lifetime cat owner, lover, and admirer, but am brand new to this site! My boyfriend and I actually adopted a rescue kitten, just about four or five months old, today. Whilst I have raised kittens before, I haven’t raised one that is as scared of humans as this one. When she was rescued initially by the private organization I adopted her from, they said she was in quite bad shape, super skinny, and deathly afraid of humans, so aside from the rescuer and myself and my boyfriend she has had no contact with humans what so ever.

    I understand the first day, and even the first few weeks are the most stressful for both the new owner and the newly-moved kitten, but would absolutely love any tips from anyone on how to properly accommodate her to our home, especially since she’s so timid and brand new to our home and us.

    I’ve thoroughly researched many socializing tips, which is how I came to this site, but would be beyond appreciative for any additional ones. Unfortunately, we don’t have a closet or small room appropriate to separate her from the whole house as we technically live in a one-room studio apartment, but we do have a large puppy crate that we decked out with blankets, towels, some of her previously-owned toys [so she has familiar scents], and some food and water that she’s been staying in for now.

    I know eventually she will have to just roam free and figure out the surroundings on her own, but I want to do it slowly so she’s comfortable and we’re comfortable with each other. I also want to make it as safe as possible for her because she just wants to hide in the smallest of places; and whilst I completely understand such cat behaviour in new surroundings and people, I don’t want her to disappear and hurt herself because she’s so scared she’ll hide absolutely anywhere.

    Oh, we also have a dog, who we will introduce her [the cat] to once she’s comfortable with the house, on her own time, but figured that might be pertinent information? The rescue organization we adopted her from actually had their own dog in the same home as the rescue cats, and I was told most of the rescue cats, presumably including my new adoptee, were socialized with it and/or exposed to it enough to understand what a dog is. Our dog has barked a few times since she’s arrived early this afternoon, and she seems honestly interested in him, staring in the direction of his kennel and not shrinking in fear when she hears him bark. I thought that was interesting because even my former cat [who we lost New Years morning to a stroke and related seizures] had lived and grown up with our dog, during her four years on Earth, and cringed every time he barked, even though they were play-mates.

    I hope everyone & their kitties are doing well, and thanks for any help in advance!

    #800937

    welcome mae! yes, the most important thing to remember is that since she is afraid of humans, and has limited to trust with them, your key is to try to gain her trust and teach her that not all humans are bad and aweful. (obviously ;p) if she’s willing to, you can let her spend time with you in a room, try to do activities with her, give her treats whenever she’s a good girl, and just in general, try to reinforce good behaviours. you have to be extra gentle with her, and probably keep extra care of your tone of voice and level, be sure to not yell at her, or redirect her forcefully. if she does something wrong, gently try to show her the right thing. i’d also wait on having her meet the dog yet too. she’s already got alot in her cat bowl sort to speak with a new home, new people, new environment, and that’s already a lot to handle as is. you don’t want to overload an already sensitve cat. good luck, and keep in touch with us here!

    #800955
    snowkitten
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    Well, I would give her lots of treats and play with her a lot (wand toys) to bond with her closely. Since there is a dog in the house, provide lots of things she can jump on to stay up high away from the dog (like shelves & kitty trees & such). Also, provide a spot where she can go to away from everyone (dog included) to de-stress when it is all too much for her. My cats use spare bedrooms & closets that others are not in at the time. A dog crate is good, provided your dog will not follow the cat into the crate & mess with kitty, for a de-stressing spot. I could never use a dog crate for that in my house cause my dog just follows the cats inside it to continue stressing them out. That is why the rooms my cat use have kitty doors through which the dog cannot follow when they need down time. 🙂

    #801001
    Mae
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    Thanks for the warm welcomes! We’ve seen a huge turn around in her attitude and demeanor towards us since after the first initial day in the new home. Yesterday, her second day here, she immediately started head butting our hands and foreheads when we woke her up, and played with us all day, even offering a straight-up, happy-to-see-you-tail, and lots and lots of purring. Safe to say our hearts melted immediately. We’re surprised she trusted us so quickly within one day, of course the big house is still intimidating to her, and we’ve been helping her explore, giving her treats, and trying to reassure her that she’s safe as much as possible. The first night she was here she zoomed out of the kennel and immediately hid under one of our bed-side tables which had all my high-heels under it, and yesterday, although she was not as nearly intimidated to explore and hidey, we could definitely tell we needed to set her up some “safe areas” outside of her kennel for her. So we took all my heels from under the bedside table and moved them, putting a few blankets under the table and covering it a bit to make it more “safe feeling”, and she took to it immediately.

    Today she seems to be responding well again, and we’re happy to say she’s been eating, drinking, and using the bathroom for urination and bowel movements on the regular, which we literally high-fived over because we were so excited when she pooped. We’ve been trying to make no sudden movements, keeping it slow, and talk to her literally all the time. I’m sure if anyone heard us they’d think we’re mental, but the talking seems to make her ears and tail perk up, so that’s good. We also try and use her name as much as possible.

    We’re definitely waiting for the dog meet until probably a few weeks, I’d rather take longer with it than overwhelm her, you know. She seems pretty overwhelmed with the house itself so I don’t want to add to the stress. The dog is usually in his own large crate on a completely different end/side of the house, or in his chair next to it. He won’t follow her, all he does is drink his water when he sees her to display his dominance over his water bowl, even with our old cat he was quite the jealous boy and acted like he didn’t get any attention from us, but that’s him just being his big baby self. He wouldn’t even fit in her crate if he tried, but I definitely wouldn’t let him, and since he really doesn’t have any interest in her I’m happy about that.

    She seems to be perfectly healthy and adjusting well, a lot quicker than we expected, the only thing we have an issue with is after she started exploring, under the bed and side table where we made her safe, hidey-area, she started sneezing a bit, especially after using litter. We’re going to make her a vet appointment, one because he needs to meet her and give her a regular check-up, and two because of the sneeze which we’re hoping is just allergies.

    Until then we’re continuing to play with and pet her tons, she’s full of purrs and headbutts, so I think she will be quite happy with us at the end of the day. I know we’re already in love with her. [:

    #801003
    katzenjammer
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    Welcome Mae,

    Is that your kitty in your avatar? She looks like a real sweetie. What’s her name? The kitty in my avatar is my Dorry boy. Anyway please do join us in the “TDK” CafĂ©, open 24/7, 365 days a year. 🙂

    #801008
    Mae
    Participant

    Thank you, Katzenjammer! And Dorry looks like an absolute sweetheart. The kitty in my avatar is actually our former cat, Adiele. She was a four year old maine-coon calico, and we lost her to a stroke and related seizures on New Years morning, so that was sad for us. Adiele was actually my boyfriends first cat, and it was really hard on him, but she definitely turned him into a cat person.

    So the loss of her was what actually prompted our adoption of this new little girl, who’s name is Luna Dixie. I stil haven’t gotten a good photo of Luna yet, but I definitely will eventually. Here’s the image from the private cat rescue I adopted her from: http://i.imgur.com/NsOk0rC.jpg She looks a lot more intimidated there, but she’s a total lover. And I definitely will join in the cafe, thank you!

    #801010
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    Welcome Mae! I’ll never forget when my Leela first came home. We were playing and I shuffled my slippered feet at her. She backed up and looked at me like she didn’t know me – and I realized she didn’t. I felt so bad, gave her time, and let her make all the bold moves from that point on.
    I’m Joan and that’s my late great Shaddo in my avatar. Now I’m owned by a new generation, almost 6 year old Miss Leela and 3 1/2 year old Big Boy Comet. They are both black cats; Leela has a white star on her chest and Comet has white armpits and the tip of his tail looks like it was dipped in white paint!
    Hope to see you in the cafe!

    #801012
    Mae
    Participant

    Thank you, Joan! Aw, your babies sound so lovely! Luna seems to be making herself right at home, definitely coming out of her shell very quickly. She’s already started following me around, and seems to have a pretty good handling on most of the house. This is my first black cat, surprisingly; she has a little heart/crescent moon on her chest. She’s absolutely gorgeous, but boy is she hard to spot under the bed in the shadows, haha.

    #801013
    katzenjammer
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    Hi again Mae,

    KJ here. So sorry for your loss of Adiele, but Luna Dixie is an awesomely gorgeous black kitty! When she gets settled in you might consider sending in her pic to be featured as the Main Page kitty. I remember when I brought my first kitty Nicky (now at the Rainbow Bridge), home. He ran and hid under the radiator. Sobbing, I called my friend who had way more experience owning kitties (this was my first time), and she came right over and coaxed him out. The rest as the saying goes is a history of 13 years. Dorry settled in much more quickly, or perhaps I had gained more confidence, and now I am totally owned by him LOL.

    #801016
    Moonshadow_NZ
    Moderator

    Welcome to TDK Mae, I’m glad to hear Luna seems to be making herself at home now.
    My avatar is HRH Shadz who really isn’t as grumpy as she looks, she is a dappled black Tortie and is 12 years old and we live in New Zealand.

    #801017
    Mae
    Participant

    Thanks for the condolences, KJ. It’s always sad to lose a kitty, but when one door closes, another opens, and we’re more than happy to have the chance to give this rescue a forever home. I definitely will think about submitting a photo once she sits still long enough! [: We’re already bending over backwards for this little girl, and she definitely has us wrapped around her little paw.

    Adiele was a hell-raiser when she was a baby, absolutely tore up everything ,and couldn’t ever get high enough in any room, which ended in many things being pushed off the shelves and ending up broken; we learned our lesson quickly the first go-around with her. As far as cat proofing goes, I think we’re much more ready this time, and we’re pleasantly surprised she’s a lot more tame [so far] than Adiele was, as she never quite outgrew her crazy stage, but we loved her more for it.

    We’re definitely owned by Luna Dixie now, barely three days in. She’s quite clingy, and very demanding of love and attention, but that’s exactly what we’ve been looking for and we’re happy to indulge her in it! We’ve got the kitten bowl on now as she sits here between my legs cleaning herself, very content with everything, and purring like a motorboat engine. I’m so happy to have a cat in the home again, it definitely makes life more fun and bright. [:

    #801018
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    Adiele sounds like a beautiful cat, I’m sorry for your loss. My late great Jiggs was a Maine Coon too.
    Luna’s crescent “tatoo” is so cute! I’m sure as she gets used to you and her surroundings she will be the ruler of your home in no time!

    #801024
    Mae
    Participant

    Adiele was definitely beautiful, thank you, Joan. And yes, we didn’t even realize Luna had a beauty mark until we met her, and her eyes are huge and bright.

    And thank you for the welcome, Moonshadow! I feel cats always seem to look grumpier in photos than in real life, I’m sure HRH Shadz is a wonderful kitty! New Zealand, I’ve never been but I’ve heard good things! *I’m from the Eastern U.S. Luna’s definitely enjoying being Queen-cat already, I can only imagine how much she’ll be owning us in a few months. [:

    #801037
    katzenjammer
    Participant

    I think it’s a given that we are owned by cats. As the saying goes “Dogs have owners, cats have staff”. 🙂 BTW What is also fun and interesting here is that many time zones come into play. I’m in the same time zone as you, but across the US it’s an hour later or earlier, in NZ it’s tomorrow, for “TDKr’s” across the pond it’s the time indicated at right on the “TDK” clock, and so on.

    #801040

    so sorry to hear! huggg welcome!

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