When Chloe met Mili

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  • 13 February, 2008 at 10:35 pm #167307
    2 Popoki
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    Thanks for the support … all of you. I was intellectually ready for this, but apparently not emotionally. I’m finding myself in tears without great explanation.

    13 February, 2008 at 10:37 pm #167308
    MadcatwomanintheUK
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    OP, I felt EXACTLY like that when we got such a bad reaction to Eric from both of ours, Pickle especially – and now they’re best buddies. Keep the faith! {{hugs}}

    13 February, 2008 at 10:37 pm #167309
    KYKAT 12 23
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    OP, if you can stand it, sleep on the couch tonight and see if she creeps out to check you out while the lights are out and the room is still. There is a great book called cat vs cat by Pam Johnson.

    Here is the synopsis from Amazon. It might help.

    Book Description

    In this companion to her successful introduction to cat behavior Think Like a Cat, Pam Johnson-Bennett, the award-winning author and feline behaviorist, shows how adding another cat to your home does not have to be the start of a kitty apocalypse. Although cats are often misunderstood as natural loners, Johnson-Bennett shows how to plan, set up, and maintain a home environment that will help multiple cats—and their owners—live in peace. Cat vs. Cat will help readers understand the importance of territory, the specialized communication cats use to establish relationships and hierarchies, and how to interpret the so-called “bad behavior” that leads so many owners to needless frustration. Offering a wealth of information on how to diffuse tension, prevent squabbles and ambushes, blend two families, or help the elder kitty in your family, Cat vs. Cat is a welcome resource for both seasoned and prospective guardians of cat families large and small.

    About the Author

    Pam Johnson-Bennett, author of five other award-winning books on cat behavior, is resident cat expert on iVillage.com and the behavior columnist for the Internet magazine The Daily Cat. She has written numerous articles for national magazines and frequently appears on national TV and radio, as well as veterinary and animal welfare conferences. She lives near Nashville, Tennessee.

    13 February, 2008 at 10:38 pm #167310
    Tikka
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    Mili – This is Tikka. Rubia in the UK is my mum, and I know just what you are going through! I hid under the couch too! It was really scary in that new house and Aunty Debby wasn’t there and my brother and sister weren’t there or anything. Just these new people I hardly knew! Eventually, Mum had to actually moved the couch to get me out (and before that the bookcase and before that the washing machine!) But then I smelled something really good and I was awfully hungry! So I decided to take a chance and have some of the food. I felt so happy afterwards that I crawled up on Mum’s lap and purred happily as she stroked me. So don’t be scared! I’m sure OP is just as nice as my mum! And you can have SO much fun teasing Chloe! And I bet that if you come out, you will get lots of nice treats!

    13 February, 2008 at 10:39 pm #167311
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    Great idea KyKat! Hope it helps with Mili.

    13 February, 2008 at 10:45 pm #167312
    Rubia in CA, 4/28
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    What? Has Tikka been using the computer again? See, OP – just wait and see. Mili will be out from under that couch and using your computer in no time! 😉

    Seriously, I do know what you mean about nearly being in tears! By the Wednesday, I was nearly in tears because I was afraid she wasn’t going to start eating! Here I had responsibility for this little creature and she wouldn’t come out from behind the sofa and she wouldn’t even eat!

    But then she DID come out (OK – I helped a llttle!) and she DID eat and it all worked out just fine. It is very early days yet, and I’m sure that a little time will do the trick! Calm and patience is definitely the key!

    Sending you some patience, calming energy, soothing music, purrs and headbonks!

    13 February, 2008 at 10:50 pm #167313
    2 Popoki
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    Thanks Tikka and Rubia. I wouldn’t be nearly as upset if she (Mili) was the only cat. I don’t want Chloe to feel she is being punished by being closed in one room or another.

    13 February, 2008 at 10:52 pm #167314
    artistabobbi TX 1/17
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    Awww OP. Sorry Mili is in such a state, and putting you in one, too. Am sending positive, calming energy for both you and the two kits. I still have tiffs with my boys, Baer, Watson, Zip, Dash, and Caspar who just likes to antagonize things.

    Things will calm down, and Mili will come out when she feels safe.

    Hopefully, it will be sooner than later.

    Peace, hugs and purrs.

    13 February, 2008 at 11:20 pm #167315
    2 Popoki
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    Me too,ab, me too !

    13 February, 2008 at 11:55 pm #167316
    2 Popoki
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    Progress…. in a small way. I could hear something downstairs… went to investigate. Mili was out ! However, when she heard me coming down the stairs, she ran right back under the couch. *sigh* baby steps….

    14 February, 2008 at 4:02 am #167317
    2 Popoki
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    I guess it’s progress…. Mili is out from under the couch. Now she is under the tray tables in the dining room. One ‘shelter’ to the next. Hope to get the 2 closer tomorrow. Even more importantly, I hope I get some good sleep tonight.

    14 February, 2008 at 4:23 am #167318
    feral
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    2P…I agree with Kat’s suggestion. If your back can handle the sofa,you might just try & curl up on it for a few hours & see if she comes out. You ought to see me trying to juggle time & attention to 5 adults & 5 kittens inside. Is it any wonder why I haven’t gone insane? I’m hoping the visual of that madness will help lessen your worries. Mili has already shown she wants to come out. Things will work out. I hope you can get some needed rest tonight. {{{HUGS}}}

    14 February, 2008 at 4:32 am #167319
    2 Popoki
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    I may try the couch tomorrow night. I’m so exhausted (emotionally more than anything) that I want to go for good, solid rest in the bed. Hmmmm…. on 2nd thought… if I can get Chloe into my room, and the door closed, I may just give the couch a try. Not thinking real clearly at the moment.

    Catchoo.. thank your for the hugs… greatly appreciated.

    14 February, 2008 at 5:40 am #167320
    Kitten Whisperer in Oregon (8/27)
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    Hi, 2P. It is hard not to worry about your kits, isn’t it? They will be fine. {{hugs}}

    You need to be rested and that will likely happen best if you sleep in your own bed. Mili may be more comfortable exploring her new space and finding her food and water without her new “two leg” in the vicinity. Chloe will appreciate the time with you.

    I hope you get some sleep so you can enjoy your new kitty in the morning. 🙂

    14 February, 2008 at 6:45 am #167321
    CSBM
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    velvet was quite upset when spice came to live with us. it’s been 10 years, the girls have their occasional spat, but get along 99 percent of the time…

    14 February, 2008 at 6:46 am #167322
    CSBM
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    velvet was 5 yrs old and spice 7 weeks old when they first met…

    14 February, 2008 at 3:00 pm #167323
    2 Popoki
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    G’morning all. I slept like a rock, in my own bed, along with Chloe. How much exploring Mili did, I’ll never know. She is back under the couch this morning. She did use the litter box, so I know she has eaten something! and drank too.

    This morning I let Chloe go downstairs with me. Lots of sniffing and the she located Mili… only by smell. BIG fat tail syndrome! And more growling. Then she sat, meatloaf style, and stared at the couch. Couch, BTW, has a slip cover that touches the floor…. so their eyes have not met since yesterday. Her eyes remained saucers, but the growling stopped. And now Chloe and I are upstairs again.

    I’ll be closing her in my room when I go out for errands the gym. Patience… wow.. not easy. lol

    14 February, 2008 at 3:59 pm #167324
    Pollys_Mum_in_UK_26/05
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    Good morning 2 Popoki, Your two will no doubt fight for a while, they have to establish the “pecking order” – who will be boss cat. Once that’s sorted they will settle down, apart from the occasional spat when the “under-cat” flexes her muscles a little. It helps if you show which cat you think is boss, it tends to establish the order more quickly.

    Good luck and remember to enjoy having your baby – she will grow up only too quickly.

    14 February, 2008 at 5:09 pm #167325
    HuddysMama
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    They will eventually be friends, I think. Just give it some time. But of course, you already knew that. I’m glad you have a new baby. I wish you the best with your kitty ‘family.’

    14 February, 2008 at 5:19 pm #167326
    GreatDane
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    Hi HM!

    OP/2P, it’ll take some time, that’s all. I guess it really helped having Milo in thebathroom for 14 days (okay 12, but almost mede it!) before they met. At that point, they had smelled eachother and couldn’t WAIT to meet!

    I’m still not letting them be alone together, so Milo still stays in the bathroom, when I’m away, poor thing!. I’m going to give it a couple of weeks til he’s bigger and then they can hang out without me there.

    They actually seem to get along well, though. Of course there’s the play-fighting, but they also greet eachother when Milo comes in from the bathroom and yesterday when he came home after a day at work. Milo runs over to Bob and rubs up against him and Bob licks him. After a little while Milo goes nuts and then they fight. Poor Bob likes to sit and look at Milo and the very tip of his tail will flick a bit. Milo attacks it time and time again!

    When we’re all there, Milo wants nothing to do with me, he only wants Bob. That’s another reason I’m taking him to work for a few days, to hang out with him a bit.

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