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  • #810606
    Buttons
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    I think I’m coping quite well with the loss of my baby Buttons.. My heart hurts a lot but my main concern now is for Mr B and Nutini.. They really aren’t coping!

    Nutini won’t stop crying and hiding in the bed room… I hope she’ll adjust soon but the fact she has PTSD might mean that this will only make her regress.. That’s my concern so I’m trying to distract her with play time and lots of goats milk treats..

    She’s started excessively cleaning herself which is a warning sign for stress..

    Bob came in early and completely blanked her and wouldn’t even make eye contact with her and he’s the one that’s the most tollerent with her .. In so much as he’ll walk past her and not swat at her Dr Jeckyll chases her and miss Hyde swats her too..

    Mr B isn’t coping either he’s been drowning his sorrows listen to sad music I know it’s his way of coping I just worry it’s not healthy.. He’s even more lost cause Nutini will have nothing to do with him she cowers if he makes eye contact she’s intensely fearful of him so he cant even cuddle her which is really upsetting him as he is extremely worried about her..

    He brought the dogs for a walk and when he came back he really surprised me! he said he wanted Nutini to have another friend immediately so as not to make her disorder any worse.. I dont want a kitten right now because I feel it’s too soon even saying it feel so silly buttons is only gone hours! I can’t betray his memory!

    But In a sick twist of fate I had been looking at a kitten last week on a rescue site I got all my dogs from.. Mr B seen me looking at his profile but said nothing at the time..obviously he was thinking of him after.. This little fella was found thrown out of a car ( exactly like buttons was) and he has a very badly ulcerated eye that’s more than likely going to leave him partially blind and he also has an extremely deformed front leg that will be removed .. He’s only 6 weeks old now .

    Mr B surprised me and said “can we not help him!” You said the only indoor only cat you’d have is a disabled one and here’s one right now that needs an experienced home”.

    He asked me to ring the rescue which I did but I asked him to give me a few days to see if Nutini gets any worse.. Buttons is a quick mover in the meadow If this is meant to be ..

    #810609
    Buttons
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    #810612
    ecbrown
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    You know, buttons, when you explained nutini’s situation today I wondered if you might adopt someone to live indoors with her. Of course I wasn’t thinking this soon either. :). But who knows. So sweet of mr b to want to move on it. A decision the two of you will have to make of course. I don’t know if sooner or later would be better for Nutini.

    #810613
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    Cats, the Meadow and other forces work in mysterious ways. Maineki and Smelly Cat may have seen this coming and worked with Buttons to help those of you they left behind.
    Funny thing is, because of this very unique situation, you would not be betraying his memory, you would be honoring it!
    Good luck with Nutini. Poor Mr. B. (((Hugs to all of you, including the wee special needs kitten.)))

    #810615
    Buttons
    Moderator

    Well I always assumed Buttons would live longer than Nutini and it’s unusual that Mr B is so concerned with her as they’ve had vertually zero physical contact over the last 2 1/2 years but he always surprises me at just how caring he is..

    He’s really very concerned for her he even wants her to have the full run of the bedroom now.. Buttons wasn’t really even allowed do that..

    I can go to visit him on Tuesday I think I’ll know what I want to do then.. And I would have the option to allow him to stay in foster care for the next two weeks so that given me time to think..

    Also here in Ireland being able to care for a disabled cat is a rare thing cause most are put to sleep cause no one wants a disabled cat so they don’t bother advertising the ones with issues.. Most Irish people don’t want a cat in the house 24/7 either ..

    #810617
    Buttons
    Moderator

    Maybe your right Joan when Lady Muck died .. Two weeks later I found out Maneki’s siblings where looking for a new home and I took all three ..Bob, Dr Jekyll and Miss Hyde.. That was unusual timing..

    And when you work out the dates from when When buttons would have been born he would have been conceived the same week Lady Muck Died..

    And now this maybe it’s a massive sign for me not the stop just keep going with helping another special kitty..

    Also I will say he is the first disabled cat I’ve seen on any Irish rescue site in over 4 years .. It has to mean something Buttons death can’t be for nothing!

    #810619
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    It sure looks like Buttons is practically handing his final gift to you.

    #810626
    Buttons
    Moderator

    That such a sweet thought Joan .. Ahh now I’m off crying again …

    I did have a name just pop into my head a few minutes ago..

    Little Mr Serendipity

    #810633
    MadcatwomanintheUK
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    Night night furball
    Close your eyes
    Dream of chasing butterflies
    Basking in the sunshine
    Jumping up trees
    Exciting smells in a gentle breeze

    Sleep tight furball
    Love you little friend
    I’m so sorry this is the end
    Thanks for the laughter
    Thanks for the tears
    Thanks for all the loving years

    God bless furball
    Don’t be afraid
    I know that you can be brave
    Be peaceful in passing
    Enjoy what’s in store
    In furball heaven
    It won’t hurt anymore

    #810634
    Buttons
    Moderator

    Thank you so Much MCW! That was beautiful <3

    #810644
    Moonshadow_NZ
    Moderator

    You can’t betray Buttons memory by looking into this new kitties situation, Buttons memory is and always will be in your heart in it’s own special place never to be shifted. It may feel like betrayal while you are still mourning his loss but that’s because you are still hurting and don’t want that love you had for him displaced by anything just yet.
    Maybe fate has put this new kitty in your path because you are not meant to be sad but compassionate instead, your love for Buttons will always be love but there is so much room for compassion.
    We regretted waiting so long after losing our previous cat before we rescued Shadz.
    Sit quietly with Nutini and talk to her about it and listen to your inner voice.

    “And God asked the feline spirit,
    “Are you ready to come home?”
    “Oh yes, quite so” replied the precious soul.
    “And as a cat, you know I am most able to decide anything for myself.”
    “Are you coming then?’ asked God.
    “Soon.” replied the whiskered angel,
    “But I must come slowly,
    Because my human friends are troubled, for you see,
    They need me,quite certainly.”
    “But don’t they understand?” asked God.
    “That you will never leave them?
    That your souls are intertwined for all eternity?
    That nothing is created or destroyed,?
    It just is. . . . forever and ever and ever”
    “Eventually they will understand,”
    replied the cat.
    “For I will whisper in their hearts that I am always with them.
    “That I just am. . . forever and ever and ever.”

    #810645
    AV
    Participant

    MS, that’s beautiful! …. and I agree Buttons, I believe everything happens for a reason! …. Buttons knows you, Mr. B and Nutini are the BEST and most compassionate rescuers ….. I think he’d be proud that you all welcome a new furrbaby, in fact – it would honor Mr. Buttons to do so…. My Big Buc and Winston in the meadow stand with Buttons (and all the other furrbabies) who send you love and support….. When Winston died, Buc saved half his food for a year, looking for his Bud Winston …. when he went to the Meadow, I know they were happily reunited and will always be furrever best buds …… they encouraged me to get ‘the Queen’ shortly thereafter, and that was almost 18 years ago! (((Buttons)))

    #810648
    JerseyJoan
    Moderator

    I must agree with the above. Shaddo knew he was breaking our hearts by leaving so soon after Jiggs. But he saw our home renovation plans coming and knew he was too old to cope. His final gift was to find someone who would help us through what would surely be a difficult time. Just over a week before he left for the Meadow, we met a little orphan named Lacy. 2 weeks later we adopted Lacy, and changed her name to Leela. Throughout the renovation, we called her our distraction, and we all got through a tough time together. And Shaddo was pleased.

    #810660
    Buttons
    Moderator

    MS that’s very moving 🙂 thank you for posting it.. I suppose I’ll have to see the difference between grieving and compassion I can’t turn my back on a case like this and Buttons would know that..

    Poor Buc AV ! Oh it’s just so hard for them isn’t it.. Nutini slept in the bedroom all night .. I think I went to sleep with her beside me and I just woke there and she was still beside me.. It would be nice if she spent the night with me and it helped her.. I played with her till late last night and she wen surprised me with the amount of times she approached me and she was grooming me a lot too.. She was purring loudly too.. I think she found some relief 🙂

    Miss Leela is still a good distraction for us Joan 🙂 I love her grumpy ways 🙂 her and comet remind me of the odd couple 🙂

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