Jo in Blairsville:
‘I have been the subject of prejudice here on TDK by whites and blacks who’ve jeered at me for being Southern. I’ve been accused of being a certain “kind of woman” and I’ve been sarcastically called Joprah,’
I believe you are referring to when you mentioned that some of the content on TDK might not be appropriate for children and that when people didn’t comment in agreement with you, that we were embarrassed by our actions?
I wasn’t going to comment on this, but it has been heavy on my heart for a few hours. First of all, it saddens me that anyone in my TDK family has felt discriminated against while visiting this site. Yes, I said family. I love each of you (warts and all!) as much as I love my family. I consider this a friendlier place than I do with my own family (sad, isn’t it?). That being said, I want you to know, Jo, that I am just voicing my own humble opinion, thinking that maybe many other TDKers felt the same way–of course, I have no way of knowing one way or another. I can only tell you how I felt.
I took that whole episode as one person trying to instill their mores on everyone else at TDK (hence, the Joprah comment). For me, anyway, it had absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with you being Southern, a certain type of woman, or anything else, for that matter. Was I offended? A little. I didn’t respond to all of that ‘stuff’–not because I was embarrassed by my own behavior–but, because I was biting my tongue and sitting on my hands so that I wouldn’t respond and hurt your feelings. My intensions here are the same. I DO hope that I’m not offending anyone here by stating my opinion, and certainly not you, Jo.
I’m sharing this with you (a little embarrased, too, by the way) because I, for one, never saw that whole mess as anything prejudicial. I’m sorry you feel like it was. People here just want to be themselves, without judgement or jury. The Kittenmeister is the one who dictates what is appropriate or not for this site, not any member–not even me. You could’ve been purple with pink polk-a-dots, tan with warts, or the most beautiful looking person around and I would’ve been a little irritated at what you said. Again, that’s just me. I’m not in your shoes so I don’t know how I would have perceived it. Do I have any negative feelings toward you for what you said? Not at all. In fact, I admire you tremendously for being able to eloquently state your opinions the way you do. I usually don’t have the guts to do so. I share this with you, Jo, so that maybe you can see that whole mess in another perspective. I don’t believe any of my friends here are prejudiced against any posters–as long as they talk from the heart. Just my thoughts. . .
Said with love, Susan