Rescued kitten at young age, now FURIOUS with me for leaving her with my parents

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  • 5 February, 2018 at 4:13 am #865717
    Penny
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    My boyfriend and I rescued Penny at 2 weeks old from the dumpster. We bottle fed her and washed her poopy butt… We share a very close bond with her and she seemed more needy than a normal cat. If I left to go to the bathroom she’d cry for me. Her and I had such a cat mother/kitten baby relationship and she sought me out for comfort always, and she absolutely adored my boyfriend who prided himself in being her dad. Well we’re college students and we can’t have pets so as she grew older we decided we had no choice but to leave her with my parents while I worked on making her my ESA. She was 3 months old. I finally got her approved and my mom brought her to us, after a month of being with them. We were ecstatic to have her back, but she is being so horrible! She is loving on everyone but us 2, in fact she’s growling and hissing and biting and scratching us! She doesn’t even wanted to be pet by us, much less picked up by us. We’re heart broken because we had no choice but to leave her with my parents, and we did visit her. She was great and loving at my parents house. Why does she hate us now? It’s been 2 days since we’ve had her back. Any insight would help so much!! Sorry the post is so long.

    5 February, 2018 at 5:16 am #865722
    Anonymous
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    Well, Miss Penny is pissed off but you figured that out, huh? You and your BF are the only family she’s known and when you left her with your parents, she felt abandoned by her furever purrents. Kits who establish that close of a relationship are more attached and she does’t trust you yet. If you’re sure she can stay then both of you will need to be extra loving. If there is any concern that she may not stay then it’s best that she go back to your mom.

    She doesn’t understand that you had to leave her for awhile or what you did to ensure she could be with you. Sorry

    PG

    5 February, 2018 at 5:25 am #865723
    Penny
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    Pussigato,
    I guess you’re right, I just don’t know how to rectify the relationship with her. She is my ESA now so she can go to any apartment with me from now on, even if they don’t allow animals, so I’ll be keeping her. Thank you. If you have any idea what I should do that would be great

    5 February, 2018 at 5:58 pm #865730
    Kittyzee
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    You were her mother, she doesn’t remember who gave birth to her. Cats do not think like dogs…they take a long time to make bonds with humans usually, but you were all she ever knew. When you left her, she may have been afraid, looked for you and went through a grieving process. When you returned to take her away again from people that she finally learned to trust, she probably feels afraid again. Give her time to learn to trust you again, by being patient, kind and loving. She can’t help the way she feels, and has a right to not trust. I’m sure she wants to, but she is afraid to. Kind of like humans, actually. 🙂

    6 February, 2018 at 2:20 am #865743
    Penny
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    I understand… I feel so bad for her, I’ll do everything I need to do in order to make her feel safe with me again. Thank you!

    6 February, 2018 at 3:37 am #865744
    Kittyzee
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    Keep us posted Penny on how she is getting along. Make sure you have her things–her bed, blankets, etc. that smell like her and she knows that they belong to her. So that the new place doesn’t seem so foreign.

    6 February, 2018 at 3:52 am #865746
    Penny
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    Okay, I will. I have her old toys and some new ones, and her bed and most importantly, her security blanket from when she was 2 weeks old. She loves that blanket so much. She is currently cuddling with my roommate on her bed while staring at me… Definitely trying to stick it to me 🙁

    13 February, 2018 at 4:34 am #865885
    Penny
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    Penny is doing a lot better now, she is close to me and my boyfriend again, well closer to me than him. But she won’t sleep in my bed or cuddle with me… She keeps going into my roommates bed and not only do I want her to cuddle with me, but she’s annoying my roommate. I don’t force her into my bed or hold her against her will. I just want her to sleep next to me and I won’t even touch her 🙁

    13 February, 2018 at 2:44 pm #865888
    Anonymous
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    I’m sorry about your roommate. Purrhaps, she can close her door?

    You and Miss Penny are making strides in re-establishing your relationship. I can imagine how she looks at you while cuddling with your roomie. You might want to give a small cuddle and see how she responds…

    13 February, 2018 at 3:26 pm #865891
    Penny
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    Closing the door won’t work because we share a bedroom.
    I can try cuddling but most of the time she just immediately jumps out of my bed.

    13 February, 2018 at 3:36 pm #865892
    Anonymous
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    3 March, 2018 at 11:17 pm #866294
    Noreen
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    I thought it was just me! *I* rescued our ginger boy, Joey Broccolino (yes, that is his name, lol) from the fountain grass in our front yard, and bottle fed him too. I travel for work though, and am gone for long periods of time. Joey and my husband have some weird little bromance- Joey chatters at him and let’s him hold him, etc. Me? He tolerates me most of the time when I’m home, because I feed him, but recently my husband went to visit his father and sister, leaving us alone together, and the cat spent almost the entire two weeks under the bed. When he did emerge, he’d growl and hiss at me. When my husband came home? He acted like his normal self.

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