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  • #66576
    MadcatwomanintheUK
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    Much less crude than my version…! (which had better remain unposted)

    #66577
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    MCW..one day at a time. First thing is to sit down with a mutual friend who is going to play mediator and put in writing some guidelines till I can move out on Nov. 3rd. I would move out this weekend if I could but cannot move till I know where I will be working, if and when I receive a permanent job offer. If the job offer doesn’t happen soon, then I will try to find something on a month to month basis while I work the current temp job which is scheduled to end Jan. 23rd, 2008. Hopefully land a permanent job before then but as we go into holiday time, it gets harder to find a permanent job. I just want all of this to be over.

    #66578
    MaxandCali’sMom
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    Uh oh, is it naughty, MCW?

    #66579
    gatakitty
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    HM, why did Humpty Dumpty have a great fall?

    -to make up for a lousy summer!

    #66580
    MadcatwomanintheUK
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    MMM – it contains a rude word, rhymes with Grit, but is an English slang version with an extra e on the end – so on that basis :

    As 2007

    Has been (rhymes with Grit but with an E on the end)

    I hope 2008

    Will be alright

    Not exactly Shakespeare, but there you go… 😉

    #66581

    Good luck to all you job seekers. Positive energy.

    Ginny, have you tried in the Dallas area? This is a good area for experienced IT folks.

    #66582
    gatakitty
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    aristabobbi- Hubby did get one offer for a 3-mo. contract in Plano, but the pay rate was so low that it wouldn’t even cover expenses. That’s all.

    #66583
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    Sorry to hear that Ginnyincatspring. It is hard trying to find a job in areas that are no longer hiring in your husband’s field. Hopefully someone will need some help with a big project and he will get an assignment. I guess there aren’t any big companies seeking temp help in the IT field? None at Dell or Perot Systems in Plano? Or is that too far from you? Hope your hubby is able to find something soon.

    #66584
    gatakitty
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    Plano is in the Metroplex (Dallas/Ft. Worth); I live near Houston which is about 4 1/2 hours away from DFW. Hubby would have had to rent an place to have taken the job, plus help with the expenses at home. What they were offering there was roughly the salary he made as a teacher, except as a contract worker, he would have had to pay the taxes and Social Security himself (yet another add’l expense).

    His previous experience was in the petrochemical industry, which is “hot” here, but everyone wants either someone fresh out of college or an H-1 visa worker, both of whom come much cheaper than an American citizen with an advanced degree and experience. In fact, in more than one interview, Hubby was told outright that he wasn’t qualified for the job, but they were trying to establish justification for either Equal Opportunity Employment (interviewing a Hispanic) or H-1 visa (“proving” there isn’t a qualified American). Extremely frustrating, and probably illegal, but what can you do?

    #66585
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    That is very frustrating. My husband had a Masters in Finance but only six months of job experience before being laid off from a company. He has gone on some interviews only to be told he is overqualified for the entry level job. It is very frustrating since he is basically overqualified with degrees but no job experience so he cannot get the jobs that require 3-5 yrs of experience. As far as I know, he received a call from an accounting temp agency but of course he won’t be telling me anything since we are not currently speaking to one another.

    He came in the apartment this morning, just before I was to get up. I am very unhappy with that and will be calling our mutual friend today to firm up a meeting in the next day or so.

    Ginny, what is work like in neighboring Beaumont? I hope your hubby can find something soon to alievate your financial issues.

    #66586
    gatakitty
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    Beaumont is practically in Louisiana. East Texas has a reputation for being unfriendly to people of color. I realize that not all places are like that, but Hubby gets enough grief this far west that he would not want to go farther east. It’s getting especially tough for native-born American Hispanics. People are increasingly looking at brown skin and saying “illegal,” even if (like Hubby), you speak unaccented English, dress like an professional American, and have a post-graduate degree. Just 5 years ago, I wouldn’t have thought this was possible in this country. I can’t believe how far down we’ve sunk.

    #66587
    anncetera2
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    Karin, you wrote: “He came in the apartment this morning, just before I was to get up. I am very unhappy with that…”

    Karin, I know it costs money, but you *really* need to get a locksmith out to change the locks on the doors! I’m *very* concerned for your safety.

    #66588
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    I am going to go call this mutual friend this afternoon to mention this to him. My husband may have to find a place to stay for the remainder of the month till I can move out. I am beginning to wonder about this mutual friend and all. He is very good at telling me what I want to hear.

    #66589
    anncetera2
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    Karin, please brainstorm with the friends closer to you who have offered to help you out. It scares the living daylights out of me that he can walk in whenever he wants, especially if it’s while you’re asleep. You are completely defenseless while you’re asleep!

    I’m going to repeat myself – your husband may NOT be your friend right now. You need to take care of your own safety! Please, for both you and your cats’ sakes.

    #66590
    2 Popoki
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    Have husband and neutral friend come over to the apt and get ALL of husband’s clothes and anything else he may NEED out of there. No reason for him to come back. He can get the rest of his stuff once you are gone. And by all means…. change the locks!!! Your safetfy is of utmost importance.

    #66591
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    Anncetera, I have confirmed with two people who use to live with my husband as roommates that he will not harm me. It was just his being mad. I can contact the police and or Instinct if there is a problem. In the meantime, I am going to consider changing the locks once the rent check clears the bank account (I don’t want to change the locks and then have him go stop his check from clearing). Locksmiths usually charge around $100 which is doable at this time. I just spoke with the mutual friend who is suppose to be helping set up a mediation meeting between us and feel sort of like his tone of voice was that of one who is being bothered by a nuisance and am feeling less and less like he wants to help me. I have contacted several rental places and if they are available to rent by Oct 15th, I am going to move. I am waiting for them to respond.

    #66592
    KYKAT 12 23
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    If you cant afford to change the locks then at least install a chain lock. I don’t know where she found it, but my mom has one that if someone tries to open the door it sounds an alarm. Or get one of those door braces that keep the door from opening. You can take that with you to the new place.

    Here is one I found on-line but Home Depot might carry something similar

    http://www.doorandwindowalarms.com/bigjammer.htm

    #66593
    anncetera2
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    Karin, door braces/jamming devices are an excellent interim solution, if you don’t want to change the locks at this point in time. Thanks for the info, Ppearson! Be sure to get one for each entrance into the apartment.

    Also, I wanted to mention… just because other people have lived with your husband, doesn’t mean that it’s the same with you and your husband. Most manipulation and/or abuse situations are about controlling the other person, not just sharing the same living space.

    I hope you’re able to find a new place to live – the sooner, the better. In the meantime, I would not count on any real or timely help from your mutual acquaintance.

    #66594
    GreatDane
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    Karin, I was able to change my front door lock by myself. It’s not that hard, and it works! I think I paid something like $20.00-$25.00 for it at Home Depot. This would save you some money.

    I think you’re right about hubby finding a place to live until you can move out. I mean, he’s got a place right now, and it’s not for that much longer.

    #66595
    Sylmiafelixsmama
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    Thank you for the idea, ppearson. I will check into getting one. A chain link will not work as we use to have one on the door and one of the times, he made so angry I used it and he just broke the chain off (I guess the door frame is made of soft wood) by banging against the door. I will check out having the locks changed this weekend.

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