HEY KARIN

Karin – How fortunate that you are being hooked up with an attorney who has experience in both domestic violence and immigration issues. I agree too, that the apartment with the divorced landlord sounds like your best option (although I don’t know what the other place is like, obviously!). I feel so bad for you, but everyone is offering great advice and support here, and it sounds like you are on the right path to getting everything dealt with. Again, I can’t offer any additional or better advice other than to take care and be careful. We’re all here for you!

Let’s see….Souse’s Fiend has dicy relationship with Authority? Is fiend a citizen?

Fiend has joined souse in threatening you with saying you married so Souse could get green card?

She “Marry me so you can get your greencard.”

He “Thank you I will I want my greencard.”

NOT EVEN IN THE MOVIE “GREENCARD” (Giraard De Prevu'[sic])

Stands to reason that is proof Souse entered into marriage to obtain greencard.

Therefore greencard not marriage was Souse’s goal.

You, on the other hand, were staying in the marriage because you are under-employed and in strained financial condition. You had once chosen to end the marriage but was entreated to remain with promises of better treatment. Promises that were broken.

Obviously, you are not hiding a big account in a Swiss Bank (or is that Barbados?) because once you became alarmed for your safety you would have withdrawn enough to leave everything but your cats and favorite book to move into new digs with all new furniture, clothes and car.

Let us say you married said scum out of the goodness of your heart. You are not criminally responsible because profit was not your motive. At most you were foolish in believing his gratitude would extend to loving you and honoring your sacrifice by being a good husband.

I assume there was a courtship before marriage? You met or were introduced? He was charming to you and your parents? (You have implied that your folks think he is a catch).

If you intended fraud, you would have quietly separated and kept any appointments with INS officials to put up a front. Not engaging in this poorly written farce.

Get your copies (sent by courrier or mail) and turn them in yourself. If it is embarrassing intimate films of you with souse for souse’s enjoyment post them on the internet yourself.

STOP ACTING GUILTY. Do not listen to the wind. Let them blow.

Karin, glad that it is working out finally and that you will be able to breathe once you are moved…

Karin, sounds like things are on track for you. I hope your meeting with the lawyer today goes well too. I wish I lived out your way so that I could help you move!

Thank you for the offer NNM. Instinct has graciously offered to help and I will take him up on it (offering him pizza and beer as thanks). I am also hiring two men who come with their own 20′ truck which will help move me all in one trip. I think with four people, we can get it done within three hours. Driving time is about 25 minutes. I packed up the kitchen last night and all I have left to do is pack the items that in two hall closets (linens, etc) and my bedroom and bathroom. I should be all packed and ready to go by either Friday evening which is great since it will give me a chance to go to bed early on Saturday evening and get some much needed rest. I am hoping to meet my new landlord to sign the lease, pay the rent/deposit and pick up the keys. I am hoping I can do this tonight or Friday evening so that on Saturday, I can take my clothes, computer, printer, monitor, and any other items that I don’t want to be put in the truck over to my new place. Sylvester and Mia seem a bit anxious about all the boxes but still managed to play a bit. I accidentally stepped on Mia while packing stuff in the kitchen. I think it may have been her tail. She hid from me under the bed but eventually came out to play so she seemed all right. Kind of undid all the confidence she had in me. I forgot..I should have given her some cat treats. I will tonight. I did give her extra kisses. Poor little kitty.

Karin, I’m glad to hear of your arrangements. A little extra attention for the kitties will help right now. Make sure on your moving day that the kitties get crated up and set in a quiet spot before you do much else; they have a dreadful habit of hiding very, very well once people show up and things start going out the door.

Kitties are a lot like kids; if you have a positive attitude and behavior about a situation, they’re more likely to be positive about it, too.

When you get to the new place, again, the kitties should be put in their crates somewhere quiet, until all the banging about is done. When the kitties get released, it should be right by their litter box; their new home orientation will start with the litter box, and everything else will be oriented in relation to the litter box. Treats when they initially come out will probably be ignored, but it would be good to offer them. They’ll wander around for a while, and if you can, the apartment should be quiet and calm during that time; no banging around with further unpacking for at least the first few minutes, and no hustle and bustle with your friends.

Good luck!!

I am going to sign the lease, pay the pro-rated rent and pick the keys tonight so I will go to the Post Office on Saturday to set up a post office box. They are open on Saturdays which works out fine.

Jo, I will email you privately when I know my PO box. I don’t know if husband knows of this site but don’t want to take a chance of posting it here.

Mutual fiend just called me but I missed the call as I went to the bathroom. I am not going to call him back as I don’t want to talk with him.

Karin, I’m a bit late catching up on all this, so I’ll just say I hope everything goes OK – I’m sure it will, you have the local help you need, and what sounds like a good lawyer and good landlord. The cats will be fine, I won’t duplicate the advise you’ve already been given about moving moggies, but will just add to be aware that they will probably be picking up on your understandable anxiety – Godspeed, good luck, and I’m really looking forward to reading the latest on Sunday when all will be done & dusted. xx

I do not think he has seen me using the site or will recall the name of it just that it had something to do with cats. I have been basically vague in most of my postings and if he hasn’t figured it out by now that I am moving out, he should have last night in seeing all the boxes in the apartment. Thankfully will have Instinct with me on my moving day so that if there are any issues, I have someone to help me. I am trying to confirm with my property manager that they received my 30-day notice to vacate the apt. When I dropped off the rent check on Oct 4th, I mentioned that I would be moving out and that she should receive a letter. If she says she never got the letter, I could be liable for my part of Nov’s rent. I will try calling her on my way to the attorney’s office. I am off to my attorney’s appointment now.