Karin, if he is trying extortion, you may want to talk with the police. Unless it indicates that you are/were involved in a murder, homeland security issues, or things of that magnitude, the “files and tapes” are simply more b******t from your Ex and the Mutual to try to keep you in line.
If the files and tapes are something that will jeopardize your freedom, they would have taken them to the police themselves or at least let you hear and review them so that you would know that you really are in serious trouble. They are just trying to scare you. If the tape is just your voice complaining about the marriage, that will get laughed out of court. Who doesn’t complain about a marriage? This is America and we really do have freedom of speech!
And Ex does not even want to think about perjury. Lying in court? My father was a lawyer, and one terrified client of his was frightened that her husband and his friends would get on the stand and tell everyone that she had slept with all sorts of people. She was completely innocent. My father smiled very kindly, and said, “If they want to risk their freedom for this waste of plasma, let them. They must be very good friends, and since all of them will be in jail for perjury, they will have a chance to make all sorts of NEW friends. Please understand, I eat little boys like that for breakfast. I will destroy them.”
Be brave, Karin. These idiots are playing with fire and trying to intimidate you and to scare you into delaying all action.
Go get ’em.