f4 savannah kitten put to sleep. cant get over him.

I’m so sorry, Ginn. Please know that accidents happen, and you didn’t know your baby was exposed to danger. It takes time to get over something like this. You did what you thought was best for him with the information you had at the time. He knew you loved him.

It will take a few days for the siblings to get use to each other again. They don’t remember that they are siblings. At 4 months old, one or both of them could become sexually mature soon so keeping them apart until at least one has been fixed isn’t a bad idea. One thing that may help is taking a couple shirts you’ve worn (and not washed yet) rubbing down one kitty thoroughly, then the other with both shirts. Then leave one shirt in each room for each kitty to sleep with. Another trick is to feed them at the same time but on opposite sides of a closed door. That way they learn that their food supply isn’t going to be threatened by the other cat.

Grief is grief, whether it’s from the loss of a spouse, a job, a pet or anything else. You have to go through all the stages; you need to allow yourself the time to work through it. Everyone moves at their own pace but if you think you have stalled you may need to find a group or counselor to help you. Sometimes it helps just to know what the stages are and to know what you are feeling is normal, even though it hurts like h**l.

http://www.memorialhospital.org/library/general/stress-the-3.html

No, he’s probably beating on her because he doesn’t recognize her. But it won’t be too long before they become mature. He’ll be less expensive fix so get him done first if you can’t do them both.

If you start handling their paws when they are kittens, it’s pretty easy to trim their nails, although it might take two people to do it.

GF, I’m so sorry, that is a tragic accident but it was an accident and you did the very best you could for your baby, with the information you had at the time, exactly as CBM said. Your vet let you down badly. Let yourself grieve, cry when you need to and give yourself time.

Please research declawing thoroughly before you do anything.

You could try Feliway (a synthetic hormone diffuser) — check online for prices — it is pricey but it can help with calming rambunctious kitties. But the boy is only playing and if no blood is being drawn, I’d just follow the great advice you’ve got above and keep doing what you’re doing.