afraid kitty no longer likes me : (

You just have to let kittens be kittens, cats aren’t like dogs in that they don’t always do what we humans want them to do. I have 5 cats, and only one of them will really let me hold him, the others just don’t like being picked up much. Mine still spook if I move unexpectedly, and two of them I have had for going on ten years now. You probably didn’t do anything wrong, your kitten is about 4 months old now and she’s coming into her own being. Just sit quietly and let her come to you on her own time. Welcome to TDK, there are a lot of people here who have much more experience with kittens than I and I am sure you will get more suggestions on being more familiar with your kitten. Oh and you might want to get her a window seat so she can look out the window, I put an ottoman under my living room window and mine take turns lying there…plus the back patio door is a nice place to look outside too.

Jet, you just need to let her be who she is. She will come around, but like Deb said, she is coming into her own and is not likely to slow down right now.

What I did with mine was let them come to me and I would pet and brush then a little bit. Now, when I get the brush out they come running because they know it’s “bonding time with dad”. Just don’t force the brushing, it should be enjoyable for her and you, if she doesn’t want to settle down just yet then try it later.

I’m sure she loves you just as much. But before she was a baby, now she’s a toddler — well, scooter — and naturally all she wants to do is scoot round. Kids get to the point where they hate being picked up too. Every cat and kitten I’ve ever had has LOVED being chased. My Libby waits for me to park the car in the driveway, gets in my face so I know she’s there then wham — she’s off, running round the house and wriggling under a hole under the house, and if I’m not chasing after her, making “I’m gonna get you” noises and playing monster, she hangs around until I do. It’s her favourite game. Then by the time I get to the front door, she’s already popped up through the hole in the verandah, making “what took you so long” miaows. Cats are darling but contrary; if you chase them, they’ll run (hell when you have to get to the vet on time); if you’re sitting still, they’ll come to you for a snuggle session. Libby loves being combed too, I just have to show her the comb and she comes up for a grooming session (she pretends it’s that but we both know it’s for cuddles…)

Mia is the same way. Her foster home had this discription of her: She’ll follow you around and come to you when you call her. If you’re on the bed, watch out, she’ll dig her way under the covers and snuggle. She purrs anytime you touch her and she’ll also come and sleep on you if you’re watching TV or working on the computer. She loves other cats and will play and groom and sleep with them. She also likes the bathroom so if you’re showering, brushing your teeth or anything else, she’ll be close by.

She likes to play alot but is not much of a cuddler on the bed. She will sleep leaning up against me when I am sleeping. She doesn’t like to be held unless you are moving about. She has fallen asleep on me when I was sitting on the couch but that was only twice in the three months since I have had her. She does purr up a storm when you touch her. She gave me a little face washing this morning.

She may or may not be more of a cuddly kitty as she grows up. Sylvester my other cat doesn’t like to be held but he does like his belly rubbed and his head scratched. He always is leaning against me when I am sleeping and he will come and sit on me sometimes especially in the winter time when it is cold.

Jet dear, just keep trying to be as good as you can to ur sweetface baby. Soemtimes, kittens (and cats) go thru wierd phases. just try to keep bonding with her, and also see if there may not be another reason like not feeling well or soemthing. i had a cat who, as a kitten loved me. then she freaked out one day over god only knows what. after a few years she became sweet again, and one day she lost her brother and went back to spazzing out.

My babies were a little underwieght too. try making a cocktail of milk, molasses, n a little sugar, and feeding her several times a day. if she takes it, she may also begind to bond with you

anncetera2…. that is a great article ! I wish I had seen that before the first trim I did on Chloe. She’s is getting better about it. Every once in a while I can get ALL claws in one sitting.

anncetera.. wonderful ! I really believe she and Chloe are going to get along well.

That larger-than-life-photo is a big help. I think I’ll clip less nail and more often with Chloe.

As far as getting her in the carrier… not going so well LOL I tried putting her food in there, moving it deeper each time. The 2 times it was all the way to the back, she threw up. Not when I was there, but I found the evidence. I did not try that again this morning… left the food nearer the opening. I have tried to praise her when she goes in, back feet NEVER make it in, but as soon as I say anything, even in a soft voice.. she bolts. I may have to try the pillow case to get her there…. or just put her in the car with the harness and leash. I just worry about dogs at the vet.

AM, the leash-carrier method for airport inspections is INGENIOUS! Thank you for posting it!

The best way I’ve been shown to get most less-than-willing cats into a carrier is to stand the carrier on end, door open toward the top. Pick up the cat; lower the cat into the carrier. As soon as they’re in, latch shut the door. You can then safely move the carrier into a horizontal position.

BTW, USAir also allows cats in the passenger compartment, but it must be in a carrier of specified size (softside allowed is marginally bigger than hardsided carrier). There’s an extra fee, and they also mandate the animal must be able to turn around and lie down comfortably in the carrier; full grown Maine Coons wouldn’t work, but kittens or small cats would.

Individual airlines vary widely according to whether or not they will transport animals, and under what conditions; it’s wise to check around.

Hi jusjet! I just read this thread and I can relate totally. I got my kitty when she was still a little baby (5 days old) and to her, I am her everything. I took care of her the same way any momma kitty would. She loves to be held too and would scoot to me whenever I am sitting on the floor. When I pet her, she purrs like crazy. She’ll be also licking my fingers, smelling me and such.

Now that she is 9 weeks old, she is starting to explore further away from me and would sometimes run as fast as she could when she sees me approaching. She dislike being held and will jump, hop, and leap away whenever I try to pick her up. If I had not visited only so many cat forums and read that many books, I’ll think that she really no longer loves me.

I am glad that my kitty is starting to explore the world around her and use her nose to sniff her way around and is becoming less clingy and needy. I hope that she will grow up to be an independent and self assured cat.